Anger is often what others see, talk about, and want us to change. However, in trainings, work experience, and personal experience it is not just anger. Anger is identified as a secondary emotion. Meaning that there are other underlying emotions. Our emotions and thoughts are complex. Our emotions and thoughts are connected which creates out actions. I would even say there are some underlying thoughts connected to our anger. When we identify the actual problem, we need to identify the root. In the same way you would cut your grass, imagine that there are weeds in the yard. If you cut the weeds on top, their roots remain in the ground and have the potential to come back again. However, if you remove them from the root they won’t come back again. It is not possible for the weeds to re-grow if they are pulled up from the root. Perhaps you’ll say that you don’t cut grass, your yard man does it. Wouldn’t you want that person to continue mowing your lawn for you? For anger to be handled effectively, we need to deal with its underlying causes. Find out what is causing your anger meter to rise. If your anger has manifested into outward behaviors, that is called aggression. Investigate the root cause of aggression to prevent it. Effective coping does not include any conflict, drugs, alcohol, fighting, or other destructive behavior. At times there is a conflict within us and start to blame, because it is an easy way to escape our problems. Managing anger means addressing the root cause. You may opt to use some self-help guides first, and then introduce some anger management education or therapy based on the nature of the underlying cause. Whichever path you choose, I encourage you to cope effectively.